Harrassment - a Choice and a Mistake

Aspasia Serna

P.1

10/16/15

Mrs.Casto

Harrassment

A Choice and A Mistake

What is Harrassment? Well the dictionary definition is the aggressive pressure or intimidtion to someone or something. Most people dont relize when they harrass someone that it will completly change the victim; whether its verbal, physical, or sexual harrassment. Unfortunatly, this is a very common problemat schools, work places, homes, etc. But why? the awnser is because we allow it to happen and do nothing to stop it. Sure we can suspend, arrest, charge, and fire people, but in the end the damage is done and stays there. Then there is another new victim of harrassment. When will it end, when will enough be enough? When your the next victim, or when someone you love is harmed?

Harrassment is a very srong and powerful action. And it can break somene so much, they will never be the same. Mentally, harrassment can make someone brutally afraid, anxiouse, tired, aggressive, and a danger to themselves. Physically, it can scar them, depending if the person whas physically hurt or violated. And personally it makes a victim feel dirty, ashamed, unimportant, guilty, and worst at fault. They will belive that what happend to them is thier own fault, that they were the cause of it. But in truth, their not. and its not just the blame; what a victim of harrassment will do to themeselves can become preety grusome. Some will become so deppressed and anxiouse, that they might start cutting themeselves, start doing drugs and drink, hurt someone else, or worse - kill themselves.

Now why people harass others is the real question. Well, its because they have been abused in their passed, they’ve seen abuse in their time growing up, or their honestly pychopaths.Psychopath meaning they have a mental stability in beliving that they are rightfullyallowed to hurt others and they enjoy thier pain. I know someone, a close friend who was harrased and violated when she was at her school one day. She was alone in the girls locker room cleaning herself up and several guys walked in on her taking a shower. They took photos of her, physically violated, and one of them actually started assulting her. Then when they were finished with her, they left alone on the floor crying, beat, brusied, at permenetly scared. Then after that, the photos they had taked, they sent them to all the students in the school. Im not sure what happened to the boys that asulted and harrase her, but in know it tramatized her completly. About a month later, i got a call from another friend of mine telling me that she was in the hospital. She had tried to kill herself and the reason why is because she said she felt dirty, ashamed, she felt like what happend was her fault, and she was so humiliated. Everyone at her school laughed at and bullied her because of what had happend.

She felt so alone that she had finally had enough and wanted evrything to end. So she took pills,a knife and locked herself in her bathroom. When she told me her plan, I was so shocked and afraid for her life. She had sat herself in the bathtub, filled up the tub, cut one of her wrists, and then started taking pills. She had been in the bathroom alone for about 15 minutes before she went unconsiouse. Her older sister, who is also a friend of mind, went home to get ready to go out with her friends. When she went to go fix her hair in the restroom she didnt notice lyndie, thats my friends name, lying in the bathtub because she had pulled the curtain over half way. When Cassie, thats lyndie’s older sister, had sat on the tubs edge to put on her shoes, she felt lyndies