How to Have a Successful Marriage

A successful marriage has been a process I’ve searched for, for many years. I believe a

marriage is a union agreed upon by two individuals that has confessed their loved to one another

and believes that the marriage would last forever. I am 38 years old and I’ve been married for 17

years. I’ve been married all of my adult life. Now, I can honestly admit that I did not have a clue

as to what a successful marriage consisted of. I met my husband when I was 13 years old, we had

our first child when I was 17, and we married when I was 20 and completed the family with my

second child at 21. My husband and I thought that marriage was the best thing for us at the time.

We were being trained that the life-style we were living, (having sex) was sinful. We thought the

love we had for one another was enough to make our union successful. During our marriage I’ve

gone through a many stages. Now that I am older and understand that a marriage just doesn’t

work on its own, it takes the two that’s involved to make it work. I’ve subscribed to “Save My

Marriage Today!” at www.savemymarriage.com. I receive emails several times a week, which

are very helpful in understanding a marriage and the process to a successful union.

To experience a successful marriage one must be willing, motivated, committed and have

faith according to Dr. Noah Kersey. I believe counseling is very important to a marriage,

however both parties has to agree to the counseling. Dr. Kersey believes though people may need

counseling very few would agree to it and even a great majority of the one’s that agrees to

counseling would not apply what they’d learned in the sessions. As a people it’s difficult for us

to change, on the other hand we want our spouse to make changes instantaneously. Then there

are those of us who say, “Yes! I’m willing to change”, but have difficulty moving towards

change or lack of drive during the change process. We must be motivated to change. There’s a

saying, “quitters never win and winners never quit” This is where the commitment comes into

play during the marriage. For one to stand strong in a marriage and not quit, faith must be

relevant in the marriage and very strong.

According to the researchers, it is believed that most people desire success in their

marriage. The task of working on a marriage is a lot harder then it may seem. As mentioned

previously, time and energy must