Marriage and Divorce

Marriage and divorce take place every day. Sometimes it's a mutual agreement and sometimes it's just an unexpected thing from one person or the other. Whatever the case may be no one wants to go through it, and I'm sure no one wants to get everything that comes along with it. Whoever may be involved in the divorce may not realize how many people around them are going to be affected. I think people should really try to analyze the situation before they get married. I think people that get married for various reasons besides the right reasons will never last. Marriage is a major commitment in your life, actually one of the biggest commitments that you will ever make. But the question that I accentuate today is what causes a divorce? What are the events that lead up to a divorce? Can some how maybe these horrible events be changed to prevent such a devastating tragedy?

Well marriage isn't even considerable to me for right now, but I am speaking from my own experiences and perceptions. I have two parents who are currently in the midst of a divorce and it isn't a very pleasant experience. I think we can all agree that the subject is besides the point. Anyhow, I believe that people will find each other for one reason and one reason only, that they are meant for each other. If my parents only knew how much it affects the people around them, maybe they wouldn't have ever committed to each other. I say this because, if the two people decide to get married and it doesn't seem right, to the point of divorce, then maybe the two need to seek help from a higher power. Don't think that I am referring to God, if that offends you, but I am referring to a consoler, or someone who has greater knowledge about the subject than you. There is probably an answer to your problems if you can accept the fact that someone else can maybe help you.

So what causes a divorce? Is it an underlying issue that you don't have the courage to confront your spouse about? Is it that you're just not happy about your self and you don't know it, but instead you think the whole problem is your husband? Whatever the reason is, I believe there is always a solution for any problem that may ever come along.

Have you ever noticed how a strong knowledgeable couple handles their problem's? Its amazing, its almost as if a problem never occurred. If you didn't know the couple, you might think they have a perfect relationship. No, not true, problems occur in their relationship exactly the same as they do in ours. The only difference is they know the proper way to assess the problem, and to work it out so that the situation never occurs again. Don't get jealous, anyone can achieve these skills; as long as they know why they want to get married, and exactly why they love this person.

So what happens when the couple actually gets divorced? What happens to the person who wasn't ready for the divorce? What happens to the person who thought they were ready for the divorce? Their lives become different and unmanageable all of the sudden. They have no one to turn to when they have had a bad day at work, they have no one to call when they got a flat tire on the side