Stay or Leave

To Thine Own Self...

Your "Stay or Leave" Equation

By David G. Jensen, Search Masters International, Sedona, Arizona

Let's discuss loyalty, but not the kind you might be thinking of. Some of our most popular columns on the internet have emphasized team and company loyalty. Other columns have described in detail the process that new supervisors must go through to motivate and encourage employees. This time, however, I want to talk about self-preservation -- and loyalty to good old number one.

I remember when my father, a 40-yr. veteran of technical management at General Electric, would come home and complain about the "new engineers." He was referring to those on his team who didn't seem quite as committed to the company as he was. These young professionals grew up in a different age, when shifting loyalties affected the way that employees viewed their companies. At this same time, companies were rapidly moving to the concept of a disposable workforce.

My father would ask "Where did the concept of loyalty go?", frustrated by attitudes that he saw from both his team as well as from top management. Layoffs ("rightsizings") became the order of the day for his company and so many others. He was offered an early retirement package and decided to take his frustration out on the golf course.

One of my friends at Drake Beam Morin, a major force in corporate outplacement, describes the modern concept of loyalty: "What we see nowadays in the biotechnology company is not the company flag waving," says Prue Hoppin of the D.C. branch of this firm. "Instead, it is what we call 'situational loyalty,' where people are held together by team or project loyalties, perhaps fostered by group leaders and not by company presidents."

But what about the other kind of loyalty -- the kind of loyalty that doesn't get spoken of or written about nearly as much? Is there a time and place to wave the flag of allegiance to oneself? What happens when this 'situational loyalty' breaks down, and it is just not possible or practical to keep the company's best interests first?

Five Scenarios in Which #1 Should Be #1

I hope you are not from the old-school-of-thought about recruiters. Some people still believe that headhunters lurk around the potted palms at meetings, sowing seeds of company disloyalty. Most good recruiters will go to the opposite extreme. I like to know about what efforts a candidate has made to fit in -- how they feel about loyalty to their team and company -- because I need to feel comfortable about their fit with my client. Those who have consistently been more loyal to themselves than their organizations over the years are generally not the best candidates.

There are certain situations, however, in which self-preservation has to be the strongest instinct -- scenarios which many of us have encountered that take all of the personal loyalty that we can muster to break free of. Here are some examples:

The Bad Boss

John could feel it coming. Another ranting and raving review of the poor progress on the therapeutic project. As the team began to assemble in the meeting room, he looked over the faces of his colleagues. Their boss, the Director of Process Development, was known to be the most critical and difficult-to-work-with person in the company. Despite the long hours and many successes that they've had along the way, he was never satisfied. John had seen most of his co-workers lose their excitement in their work, and if he stayed much longer in this company, he felt that he too would become a victim of this terrible supervisor.

It's easy to understand why people want to stay with a good boss. After all, there is nothing better to help make one's work life enjoyable. Why some people have a hard time leaving a bad boss is much more difficult to understand, however. Dr. Jacqueline H. Plumez, who wrote the excellent book "Divorcing A Corporation", says that this is because bosses can become surrogate parents.

"The complex relationships between bad bosses and their subordinates are often an extension of childhood struggles," says Dr. Plumez. "Boss-parents can push the same buttons your real parents did. You might find yourself caught up in an endless cycle of seeking praise and approval, for example."

Reaching the Plateau

Despite the many successes she had seen in this job, and her love for the science, Jingli felt that it was like seeing "Gone With The Wind" for the fourteenth time. She knew what was around every corner.