What Happened to Ward and June Cleaver?

What Happened to Ward and June Cleaver?

Single parent homes, broken families, and divorce are rampant in today’s society. Marriage is no longer the revered union that it once was. Divorce is clearly on the rise since the days of yesteryear that depicted happy families in the favorable image of Ward and June Cleaver. Unlike the June Cleaver’s of days gone by, the women of today now busily juggle careers, family and household responsibilities, and play the role of “soccer mom” among many other things. Now that June is swept away with her many responsibilities, together with her earning capacity, reduces her need to rely on Ward ultimately making it easier, and more likely, that their children, Wally and Beaver will become the unfortunate products of a broken home and divorce. Rather than dealing with so many divorces and trying to battle the issue of broken homes from the back end where the damage is irreparable, why not attempt preventative measures instead?

According to the Council on Families In America, “for the average American, the probability that a marriage taking place today will end in divorce or permanent separation is calculated to be a staggering 60% and more than half of divorcing couples have children under the age of 18. The odds that a child today will witness the divorce of their parents, is twice as great as a generation ago, with as many as half of all children likely to experience a parental divorce before they leave home.”

Many states, now concerned with the rise in numbers of broken homes and divorce rates, have decided to take measures to reduce this epidemic by implementing mandatory waiting periods when obtaining a marriage license, and mandating programs and educational seminars similar to post-divorce programs now enforced by almost every court systems across the nation.

The controversy, however, lies in the argument from critics that restricting couples from marriage or imposing fines or penalties is unjust. Jennifer Daw, a therapist with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy quoted an article from USA Today wherein opponents argued that, “divorce regulations or restrictions would create messier divorces, not prevent them and tougher restrictions on divorce could endanger women in abusive marriages.” People were once required to negotiate in divorce. The “No Fault Divorce” has changed that and takes the grounds for negotiation away from the unwilling spouse. This, in all actuality, means the one leaving can take half the assets, even if guilty of adultery. Still, they believe that divorce is a natural liberty and a personal choice as a means to deal with unhappy or contentious marriages and family disharmony.

Conversely, this line of thinking denotes how selfish and egoistic our society has become. This system of “me first” mentality placing such high values on “individuality” and unrestricted liberties comes at a great cost. Our selfishness and need for this instant gratification should never take precedence over our obligations as parents to our children. So, rather than dealing with the broken families, perhaps we need to take a more active role in supporting the preventative measures. As the proverbial saying goes, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

Jennifer Daw, in her article entitled “Saving Marriages: How to do it?” found that, “several states have implemented mandatory premarital counseling laws, community marriage covenants and extended waiting periods for obtaining marriage licenses. At least ten states (at the time of this writing) have proposed requiring premarital counseling to aid in reducing divorce rates.” Some states also impose penalties and fines on couples who do not attend the mandatory premarital counseling. As these programs become more and more popular and as news of the success stories and increasing rates of the decline in divorce associated with these programs increases, the number of states participating in these programs is expected to increase as well.

These mandated programs and educational seminars address and focus on important life issues such as religion, birth control, finances, role expectations, child rearing, priorities, conflict resolution, housework, extracurricular activities, values, and intimacy before a marriage license is granted. Mike McManus, a syndicated columnist and founder of Marriage Savers, also leading the crusade for premarital programs stated, “It is our responsibility to set minimum requirements to raise the quality of commitment in those we [chose to] marry. We believe that couples who seriously participate in premarital testing and counseling will have a better understanding of what the marriage commitment involves.” He and many Catholic, Protestant and Jewish clergy agreed to test marriage preparation programs for a minimum of four