Self Evalutation

Self-evaluation is definitely the most difficult type of criticism to receive. When

you are hearing your faults from other people they usually go in one ear and out the other,

but when you take a step back and realize for yourself that something needs to be changed

within your personality, is it when you truly do something about it. I have a problem with

allowing myself to become attached to girls that I have crushes on. I dream about how

things could be and I imagine a relationship inside my head far before there is even a

chance. I also tend to take any sign of affection as a girl having a "thing" for me. These

behaviors are what need to be changed, it has become detrimental to my social life and

something needs to be done.

I do not think I can explain why I do this, but I will try and do so anyway. I have

had one girlfriend in my life time, that is it. I went out with her for a little over a year

from the time I was 15 until I was 16, so pretty much from the summer of my freshman

year up until the summer of sophomore year. I have had many, many crushes since then

but none of them have gone anywhere, this is because of my problem. When I meet a new

girl I start to talk to her and hang out with her until I feel that something may be possible

with her but I guess I am not very good at judging when things are right and when they

are not.

After that I will try and move in the direction of starting a relationship but in the

process I tend to fantasize that things are better than they are and I see us being happy and

her as my girlfriend. This always tends to pose a problem because it ends up that I like

this girl a whole lot more than she likes me, not only does this sometimes scare girls but it

also makes me feel bad. The conclusions I draw from these experiences are that I am

either ugly, undateable, or that