The Truth

Thaler’s argument “The truth, as I have discovered often hurts and is less important for a meaningful relationship than we may think” can relates to many and to some extent is agreeable. However, I strongly disagree with Thaler’s analysis of what he thinks a meaningful relationship should be. Trust is what generates relationships; therefore, the lacking of trust in relationships would wound up with clusters of lies, doubts, and deceptions.

It is obvious that there is a lack of trust between the relationship of the narrator and Amy; yet the narrator is oblivious to this fact since he believed that as long as his lies are not “big lies”, it was tolerable of him to stretch out the truth to appease his wife. “The other day I lied to Amy. It wasn’t a big lie, but it was big enough to assuage her doubts.” In spite of this, the narrator claimed that the dinner was an innocent experience; then again he was not honest about it. So can he really say that it was an innocent dinner? On the other hand, Amy should never have doubted his reasons for coming home late that night because as she continually to doubt, he has continually lied for the sake of her doubts and the sake of wanting to keep this “strong bond of trust” that he believes still exist between them. Coming from experiences, I agree with Thaler�s perception that “all lovers lie all the time”; however I believed that to have a meaningful relationship, one must have to admit the truth and work it out, in order for the chain of trust to be built.

Growing up, I realize that my parents are not always perfect. Over the years, there were definitely deceptions and lies that kept my parents from seeing eye to eye. Seeing my mother hurts, I always thought it would be better if my father had not unsealed the truth to her, rather twisting the truth a bit to satisfy her. I admit, the truth often