Thinking About Adversity

Often in life we come to a stage where we’re thinking, �’Things are just not working they way they should be’’. We get frustrated because we’re in a situation we don’t want be in in life. One thing you must understand is that what we will ever do is influenced by our attitude, and our attitude is influenced by our thoughts. So our thoughts become our actions, and our actions become our lives. We live out our thoughts.

First thing we have to think about is, what is actually not working out, and why. Why am I doing badly in maths? Why are my friends and I not having such a good relationship at the moment? Think about it. Then get over it.

That’s right get over it, because they longer you dwell on the negative things in life, the worse things will seem to get. I’m not saying forget about everything and leave your problems to sort themselves out, I’m saying look at your problems, look them over and decide what you are going to take from the, what you have learnt from them, then set them away from your mind. If you’re walking around going; �’Ah man my life sucks’’, If that’s what you’re thinking about the whole time, your life will start to correspond to that! Just imagine what you life would become if you walked around saying, �’ Ah man... life is awesome! Thanks God for such a wonderful life!’’

A good way to face your problems is to write the things that are bothering you down, maybe even draw a picture, whatever helps you get to grip with what’s bothering you and to make them more solid. Then imagine each problematic situation the way they should be, the way that you would like them to be. Write down a few solutions that could help change the way you look at the situation into a more positive and optimistic way.

Another good thing to do when looking at your problems is to step back and look at them and see what problems are priorities, what are serious issues that need to be sorted out, and what is really not that big of problem, but seems huge at the moment? Take a step into the future, say about two weeks. Look at your problems as if you were two weeks ahead and say, hang on, let’s look at things properly now. Then give them a score out of ten. Rate each problem out of ten, in terms of the higher numbers being more important, impactful issues, and lower numbers being unimportant insignificant snags. This is called eight-twenty. Only twenty percent of what we think is important is actually important, and the