Trust

Trust, is there such thing, can trust ever be achieved or is it just an idealists fantasy? We need to ask ourselves, why do some people find it so hard to trust other people? Due perhaps to the degree of unpredictability in life, even things that seem most certain can be the most likely to fail. There are many things that can cause a lack of trust, new things appearing, things that have always been there and just hidden and of course what has always been there for people to be distrustful of, with everything that happens today would the better question not be "How can anyone have trust in society today?"

Life is unpredictable, No one can say for certain what will happen and things have a habit of happening at the most inconvenient times. You tell someone you will meet them at a certain time and the bus/car or whatever breaks down not the late persons fault, but yet are you going to trust the person not to be late again if he says to you he will be there at a certain time. Maybe not, most likely depending on if it was important or not, it is a key factor in this if you are say going bowling and it is open all night and they are 15 minutes late fair enough, but say it is something more important, a lift to a loved ones funeral you have no other way of getting there and they let you down and you arrive half way through the service, next time you need something done you will be less likely to ask that persons help or trust them to be there for you or on time.

People are becoming more wary of life and it’s problems and I feel as time goes on people are looking no further than themselves for who to trust, unsurprising really when you consider the amount of lying, cheating and betrayal in the world today.

With people now having a fascination with celebrity life and what they do in their spare time we are starting to have a better look into private parts of everyone’s lives, celebrities may have more money and fame but they are still human and thus have human nature they make the same mistakes as the rest of the world and due to magazines, newspapers and documentaries on TV we are starting to see them lie, cheat, steal generally things that would make people distrustful and think well if they can do it why would other people not, they are not much different from us, they just get paid more and everyone knows them, Seeing your favourite celebrity cheat on his wife/girlfriend, seeing her steal from clothes shops, them lying about things despite evidence all showing they are guilty.

So Far we have looked at what makes us distrustful of a person or a few people and not really entered into mass distrust as yet, let’s take a look now at some of the things than happen or are done to us to make us distrust everyone and sometimes everything around us.

Relationships can be a big part of this, not just Girlfriends/Boyfriends Husbands/ wives but with our friends and even our closest family who hurt and betray us.

Friends are supposed to be for life, sometimes the people closes to us, and the ones who know us best of all. We turn to them when we are in need of help or understanding, someone to listen to us who us when things are not going well who we can tell our secrets to. Or can we, as we get older we end up with less and less friends left with only the true friends who have stuck with us through everything. The others who left us in time of need, the ones who have sided with one of their other friends over us, the ones who have stolen from us, the ones who have cheated us and sometimes on us, your friend decides he likes your boyfriend/girlfriend and sleeps with them or whatever ends up dating them over you all this leads to distrust of them, and starts to sow seeds of discontent amongst us with our other friends if they start to maybe show small signs that it is happening again with them, even if it is or not and we can slowly descend into an irreversible pattern of distrust of everyone around us.

Also those who we are dating, engaged to or married to even, we may at times not feel as close to these as our best friends there may be things you could never tell your partner but then again with the closeness we share with these people in the little cuddles the kissing and making love get us closer to them in a way we can never have with just being friends with people. Thus things will hurt bad for us when things go wrong, if we lose a friend there is usually bad blood or things are not what they could have, most of the time with our partners we are attached to these people for a long time after, we still feel love in our hearts for them and maybe always will so when we are betrayed by them it can not only hurt but make you not want to trust anyone else, not want to let anyone else in to hurt us again, we want so bad to be able to love but the hurt these people have caused