Love Language Assignment

Jonathan Herrera

Professor Whitton

12:45

6/2/2014

Love Language Assignment

1. You’re a really good friend and we because friends mainly due to proximity. Andrew and I hangout all the time and with the same group of friends. I consider our friendship a loyal and comedic one. I picked him because he was close and is a good friend, I also didn’t read the questions before we started.
2. Andrew and I fall under the Storge love style because there’s no physical contact involved. Storge is our relational love style because we’re not interested in getting intimate with each other. Andrew and I are love each other as brothers and that falls into the Storge category. We listen to each other attentively and have built an empathetic relationship.
3. The two most dominant love languages for me were quality of time and words of affirmation. I feel this is fitting because I believe words are powerful and you should say what you do. I like hanging out with people a lot and like talking to my friends; As long as my main listening barrier personal concern isn’t a factor that day.
4. The two most dominant love languages for Andrew were acts of service and receiving gifts. I believe this fits him perfectly because he talks a lot, but he shows commitment all the time. The receiving gifts is also accurate because, Andrew was more excited about his new Mac than seeing his brother after a year.
5. I believe it is important to know your Love language because it’s important to know what you want. If I wanted to let my partner know how to make me happy I would tell her to run with me and always tell me the truth. By giving her example and explaining my two dominant love languages, I believe this will build and uncomplicated the relationship.
6. Learning Andrew’s love language educated me on how to make him happier if I choose to. If we ever get into a conflict I can use bribery to appeal to his receiving gifts language. Learning Andrew’s Love language will help build out platonic relationship because Andrew doesn’t care for talk, only action.
7. Whenever I plan to hang around Andrew I’m going to try and make words less important to me. Experimenting with different communication techniques and with spontaneity is going to be my response during our future hangouts. I could express my love language better by hanging out with a different group of friends. Hanging out with friends I haven’t hung out with in a while would raise the quality of time love language in my life.
8. I can tell the person that I like prefer doing activities with people and to let me know how good of a job I did on something. Appraisal and quality time are my dominant love languages, even though they weren’t my first picks. Ironically I know I relate to these two the most out of the five love languages.
9. I believe that Dr. Chapman’s view on receiving gifts relates to rewards. Although receiving a gift for nothing all the time would be great, the likelihood of that happening is small. The reward system for why we create relationships is to get something, then give back. Quality of time fits into the coming together of the Stages of Relationship Development. Integrating and Bonding require a great deal of quality of time.