Race and Relationships

There are two places where I think that the issue of race is most apparent in my own observation; religion and sex. They call Sunday morning the most segregated time of the week in America. This is because most people will step away from their pretensions of diversity and go worship at their respective churches that are led and attended by people who look and sound just like them. A fully racially diverse church here in the South (I can't speak for up North and other Western Countries) is the exception rather than the rule.

The situation where this is most apparent is porn, headlines like "see amateur co-ed deal with 14 inch monster black cocks, see sexy latina get pounded, big black booty girl , white trash sluts get screwed, tight asian bitch gets wrecked by american dicks." And the list goes on and on. Porn in many ways is a true expression of a people's sexual culture and perceptions. By looking at buttoned up and prim Japanese, who would know that they came up with a concept like Bukakke or the conservative Brits could come up with Movie Buff's all time favourite, soggy biscuit?

I was reading this article in Details magazine online that somehow illustrates my point. A swingers club where black "mandingos" pleasure white men's frumpy wives while the men watch. I have always wondered how a man can let another man have his wife while he watches, I guess it's a white thing. But why couldn't they use some well built white men for that? Well it's because of the perception many white people, educated or otherwise have of black people; insatiable, well endowed sex dynamos.

Another very telling incident was when I helped my friend set up a profile on a popular dating site so she could meet new people, so after the appropriate photoshop work, blurring the pics and all we were good to go. After reading a few of the responses which were mostly from white men in their 30s she decided to take the profile down, some of them would start out by saying stuff like "hello you chocolate thing!, let me be the vanilla in your coffee," profess their love for black women and other race based cliches. It became obvious to me and her that these men were just out to get some brown sugar and not to get to know my friend regardless

of her personality. We all know historically during slavery and during colonization that white men used to have their way with black women and other women of color and many of them still have that colonial hang up where they see them as their own sexual chattels, lesser beings than their own women. After all we know about how many Kenyan women are wooed