Daddy’s Little Girl

In my childhood years, my father taught me how to play baseball. I played shortstop and third base on a little league in Beirut, Lebanon, where we used to live before we moved back to Saudi Arabia. He never missed a game. He taught me how to ride a horse. The first horse we bought was named Princess. Riding in front of him in the leather Western style saddle, he would let me steer with the frayed, rawhide reins. He also taught me how to dance the waltz. I am still not very good at following, but I remember he would always say I needed to know because on that day I get married; he will demand the first dance! I used to watch him play ball with his friends. He seemed to be such a strong and athletic man.

But now I am his strength. Nowadays, I have to put his socks on…slowly so it doesn’t hurt his ankles. I have to tie his shoes, and then help him to his feet. I make him breakfast, and go with him to his dreaded doctors’ appointments. I have to massage his weakening legs and feet to improve his circulation and stop the hurt. To hear him cry out in pain, or to know that he can never do those things he loves, like sports, horse riding, and dancing ever again is heart wrenching. These days I play alone; He can’t throw the ball. I ride alone; he can’t sit on the horse. I dance alone; he can’t even walk.

My father has been chronically ill for sixteen years now. He has Rheumatoid arthritis and type B diabetes. A stroke has caused the loss of vision in one eye and because of his medication, he now has high blood pressure, a low immune system, and 70% of his kidneys are gone. I’ve watched him in agony my whole life. At times I have found myself feeling numb towards my father's cries. I try to shake the uneasiness. But what always plagues my mind is that fear for when I leave the house, I may not ever see him again. It’s a whole different outlook on life.

Yet, regretting his illness is something I try to prevent. I love my father very much. People say, by the way I talk about fathers, that I must have a good relationship with my own. And I believe we do because we have been through so much more than most other daughters and fathers. At an early age, I had to realize he was never going to get better and I chose to grow up and become a help, rather than a dependent, to my family. Worldly things are less important now and some things must be put to the side. My family’s well being deserves my attention above all.

On the other hand, I didn’t always feel this way. As a typical young girl, I was selfish. Even though we all knew my father was very ill, I still wanted that awesome new outfit that Sarah wore to school yesterday, or the brand new and improved Barbie with the folding lawn chair. What wasn’t clear to me was the seriousness of these diseases that were ravaging my father’s body. We we’re always in and out of the hospitals, treatment for this, check-ups on that. It was only a part of my life, and what seemed to be merely routine.

Then one day, I came to understand that “life” is only a string, slowly untwining, and ready to snap at any moment. It was that upsetting day that everything became surreal to me.

I was 15 years old. It was a chilly morning. I woke up to faint voices through out the house. I sat up, taking a deep breath and slowly arched my back to stretch. That’s when I noticed the red and blue lights flashing outside my bay window. It was an ambulance’s light. My stomach dropped. “Please God no….” I prayed.

I walked out of my bedroom to see two young men lifting my father on a black stretcher and readying him for the ambulance trip. Then they just took him away. They didn’t even acknowledge me, not even a “Good Morning". When most families are waking up to school or work, I woke up to confusion and nervousness. I learned that he had pneumonia. The odd thing about the medication he took, called prednasone, is that you never know when he is sick. It masks a lot of the symptoms so you never notice them until it becomes almost fatal. My family and I stood in the living room for a moment. We were silently waiting for my mother’s reaction. After pausing for quit a long moment, she looked up at us from her seat, shrugged her shoulders, flashed a fake smile and with obvious disappointment in her voice, she said, “Well then…..time to get ready.”

We were pointed in the direction of a small room with rose and tan-colored wallpaper at the end of a short hallway. Inside the oak-wood door, four chairs with brownish upholstery faced a repulsive couch done in reds with brass trim. A couple of small coffee tables with formica tops separated the chairs from the couch, and a