I Am Doing It Because I Love You

I am doing it because I LOVE YOU.

As a child I would receive spankings for any of my misbehaviors. Now as a parent myself with a five year old son, I now understand why my parents did the things they did. My son has gotten a few spankings in his life. Giving a spanking to a child to me is just fine as long as you spank them on their buttocks.

Spanking is done by giving the child a few swats on the buttocks. Spanking a child out of anger is not an option. You job is to correct a situation and not make it worse. A child can tell if you spank them in anger or trying to correct their behavior in a calm manner. After you spank a child let them think of what they did wrong, you need to make sure that you talk to them when both of you are calm enough to talk.

“I don't think occasional, non-abusive spanking when young children misbehave is going to cause problems -- if the spanking is done right after the infraction in order to teach a simple lesson, if it is not especially painful, and, most important, if the emotional tone of your home is loving and nurturing the rest of the time.” This is what Dr. Steven Parker believes, who is a pediatrician . I believe most parents do spank only when necessary, and when it is appropriate.

Guidelines on Disciplinary Spanking

• The child should be forewarned of the spanking consequence for designated problem behaviors.

• Children who are younger than 18 months or older than 6 should not be spanked

• Spanking should be used to correct a misbehavior, not to intentionally harm another person

• Spanking should never cause physical injury

• Spanking should be done in private so as not to humiliate the child

• Spanking should be done with the hand, not with objects

• Spanking should only be used after other methods (e.g., talking, verbal correction, and time-outs) have been used.

• Spanking should never be done when the parent is angry or “out of control”

When I give my child a spanking it’s because he was told to do something or told to stop a behavior, and he still did not listen. He understands that a spanking is a last resort that his father and I do. I never spank in anger, or use an object. My parents always warned me first and let me know