Is There More Than one Message in an Ad?

Is There More Than One Message In an Ad?

The personal ads can reveal a message about the author that is not intended to be put in the ad through ink. To find this type of information you have to look a little deeper to find these kind of messages. The author might not mean to, but in the form of their writing they send out bits of personal information that is not intended to be noticed. As in the ad of Woman Seeking Man, I find that the woman has been hurt in the past and that is why she is being a little mysterious and vague in her ad.

The woman in the ad crosses me to be hurt. It seems that maybe in some past relationships things might not have gone her way and she ended up with the short end of the stick. She lists so many qualities that the perfect man could have; it seems as if she is talking from things she learned from bad past experiences. For instance, she states that the man cannot have any dependents or baggage from the past. As if in her last relationship, her mate might have been dealing with an ex-girlfriend or wife. It might have even ruined her relationship to the point to where she does not want the guy to even be associated with an ex. She might be talking about children that the man might be committed to. She acts though as if the only children that she wants in her relationships are the ones that belong to her and her partner. She might be trying to suggest that she already have children that she is having to deal with and she does not want anymore to have to handle. She also puts a one-woman man at the beginning of the sentence that follows that sentence that takes up most of the article. As if to apply emphasis to it so that the guy gets the picture that she does not put up with a man that cheats or is a little to friendly with the ladies like a flirt. She could be emphasizing one-woman man because she has dealt with a cheater before and it has ruined a relationship or two in the past. She also keeps referring to the man needing good manners. She states that he should be well-mannered, mature, expert in the art of courtship, and always puts the toilet seat down, but she spreads them through out the passage so that the reader does not forget the point. She repeats it so much that she acts as if she might have been treated badly in the past, or maybe she did not get treated as though she thinks a lady should be treated. She also speaks as if she is or has been apart of the lower society in life. For instance, how she always talks about wealth. She says that she wants a man that is a professional, businessman, or entrepreneur, very best quality if jewelry if worn, and it would be a plus if he drives a Lexus or Infinity. She could be talking in a way that she is fed up with being in the lower class and wants a man that can support himself and her at the same time. It almost seems as if she was on a rage when she started writing this ad, and she just started naming off all the qualities that she wanted her next man to posses because her last experience with a man was everything that she does not want in her next relationship.

The woman tends to be mysterious. She does not tell enough about herself. She puts every piece of information that she gives about herself into code. For instance, when she tells about her age she says that she was born in the year of the dragon. It would take someone that is familiar with that type of material to understand a statement like that. For a person to look up the year of the dragon, might require someone who is very interested in the mysteriousness of this woman. She also does not give her exact nationality. Whether it is the fact that she does not know her nationality or that she is just trying to create some more mystery, she just simply tells that she considers herself African American. This could turn some men away because some guys might not like to date out of their own race. Her weight is a riddle as well. She states that she is presently and temporarily above her normal weight of 135. She could be pregnant or she could be recovering from a pregnancy. Maybe she is fat and she is dieting. She uses the word presently, so one could take that she is at the time well over weight. She also uses the word temporarily. How long is temporarily? Is she planning on staying fat a few more weeks or months? Was she 135 when she was in high school, and now she is striving to get back to that level? She also writes the word normal. She could think that her normal weight is 135 or the doctor is telling her that her normal weight should be 135. When in fact, she is averaging out at around 200. She also suggests that she wears corrective lenses. Is she saying that she wears corrective contact lenses? Is she saying that she wears corrective glass lenses? One would have to meet her in order to find out. If she does wear corrective contact lenses then this means with the technology used today that she might not have