Love Is Not About Gender

I've always found this kind of statements offensive, but I've kept my mouth shut because I fully support the rights of anyone to identify in whatever way they feel comfortable in terms of their sexuality and gender.

Today, however, I realized that I find this 'I fall in love with the person rather than the gender' thing offensive to people like me, who are orientated one way or the other, because it sounds superior whether or not superiority is intended. It sounds like the person speaking feels that s/he is better than those of us who allegedly fall in love with genders rather than people. What do we fall in love with, then, if it's not the person? A set of genitals? When I fall in love with a woman, is it just her 'sex' I'm after? Do I have a lesser experiences of sexual relationships because I only want them with women rather than with 'people'?

Of course it is very important to critique our society's mania for sex and gender categorization and vital that people become free to follow their desires beyond the constraints of heteronormativity. And of course people should also be free to be something other than heterosexual or homosexual and masculine or feminine. BUT, the battle is not to set up new hierarchies even implicitly. It would be a bad thing,